Live your Life Ay Ay Ay

"It’s seven o’clock, on the dot I’m in the drop top cruising the streets. I’m with a real handsome fella who is crazy for me… "

If you are any kind of R&B fan I am sure that you recognize these lyrics. My man Usher, well with a few lyric moderations. Imagine if you will, you and your BAE ready for a night out on the town. Beyonce’s Flawless doesn't even do you justice. On yea your significant other is looking fly as well. Can we say power couple? Because you guys are the “it” couple you are making your way around town, hitting each hot spot showing your true legitimacy as a couple. Everyone wants to be you and everyone wants to be your friend LG, Life’s Good.

But here is the lyrics to your life. 

"It 7:00 on the dot I’m in my PJs eating some meat. Wish I had a real handsome fella on the couch watching TV with me.” 

Reality is you are lying in bed looking like a hot mess, binge watching my 600 Lb life. Surely this will make you feel a little better about yourself. Assisted by social media, you’re living vicariously through your friend's Saturday plans. On to the next episode. Meanwhile after failing to use the bathroom for several hours, the sudden urge has quickly come upon you. You use the restroom and return to your bed with a carton of mint chocolate chip ice cream. The flooding memories of being picked last at recess or being called LOSER rushes to your head.

Seeing everyone around you flourishing in their season of life, the enemy starts feeding you lies about your worth. That you never going to get out of this situation. That no one wants or will ever want to be with you. Not true. You always have to remember that God has a specific plan for you. It looks different from others. Don’t compare your life to the life of those you see. You have not been forgotten or dropped.

Philippians 4:8 says  And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. ⁹ Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me—everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you.

Look for the source of your thoughts. Are they good or bad? Good thoughts = Jesus, Bad thoughts = the enemy. Plain and simple. Yes the drought in your love life can lead you to a state of depression but I am here to tell you that you can be happy wherever you are.

Let’s bring it into a new prospective. Ephesians 5:16 says “Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days. Even though these lonely days aren’t really evil, to the single girl they feel like it right? Paradigm shift. See the cup half full! Instead of thinking you have nowhere to go or get ready for. YOU HAVE NO WHERETO GO AND GET READY FOR! HALLELUJAH! If you are like me and don’t have wash and go hair. You don’t have to style that unruly mess. Mic drop right there for me!

Kate Middleton versus Kim Kardashian? Which looks most appropriately addresses your style? Here’s to no stress concerning picking out an outfit where you accentuate your curves but don’t reveal all your goodies. Keeping it holy. Instead can we say tattered Mickey Mouse onesie with food stains! Sounds good to me! You don’t have to try to dress to impress and that is fabulous. Take advantage of it.

What’s for dinner you ask? ANYTHING YOU WANT! You don’t have to pretend that you only eat salad to stay skinny. Let your inner chubby girl come out! Let her wave her Oreo filled hands in the air in victory!  Eat that turkey leg with a side of ribs. Let the sauce drip off your chin. Own it! No one will ever know.

What’s on television? Oh you know just a good six to eight hours of Lifetime Movie Network or The Notebook on repeat or my case EVERY James Bond Movie. There is no one there  to judge you, so let the tears flow or practice your stuntman moves. Reenact those amazing scenes. You don’t have to share your viewing pleasure with anyone. One day that will be a struggle but today my friends is not the day.

Ever thought you could be on Lip Sync battle? I know I have. Well now is the perfect time to prove it! Practice in the mirror. Crank up the volume. Maybe put on a stellar outfit and prove it to an audience of one. You just never know when you might get the call from LL Cool J so be like a boy scout and always be prepared.

For those of you who are more the intellectuals. read a book. Yes I said it READ! I personally love using my imagination and getting lost in the story. Pick a genre and go for it. After all readers are leaders.

As you can see there are endless options for your "lonely" night. These are just to name a few. Get creative with it. Don't allow society to dictate what your life should looks like. You are the one in control and it is all about what you make it. Make it exciting!

Lastly the thing that would be the most beneficial to you, spending time with God. Take this opportunity to grow closer to God. This very well might be the place that God has lead you intentionally to build a deeper relationship with Him. Read, pray, worship, listen to podcasts whatever works for you.  After all He is the original pursuer of your heart. Allow Him to pursue you in this time. Get intimate with God and it very well might be that the intimacy that you build fulfills the void that you are feeling. Once you are in a relationship, the balance of your relationship with God will get harder. Do it now while you can be fully committed.

A lot of time God allows you to be in a wilderness place before He gets you to the promise land. Let your relationship with God bloom. He is the lover of our soul and our original love. He thinks that we are the apple of His eye (Psalms 17:8). He is constantly mindful of us (Luke 1:48 )and rejoices over us with singing (Zephaniah 4:13), God's love for us is endless and unconditional. Why wouldn’t we want to spend time with Someone who treasures us so much? Invest in Him because He has a lot invested in you. This is where true satisfaction is.

Psalms 65:12 

We went through fire and through water;

But You brought us out to rich fulfillment.

#thatsinglelifethough

Bekah Out!